Why get married?

Why get married? That is a question that many of us never think about. Marriage is just what you do. You meet someone, fall in love, and then get married. Most people get married because their parents did, their friends are, and that is just what is expected. When we look at marriage as just something we do as a result of a natural progression, many times we can enter into it without knowing what we are aiming at. And if you don’t know what you are aiming for, you will never hit the goal. This is the reason that many people are frustrated in marriage. They don’t know the purpose behind being married and what God wants them to accomplish in marriage. You can’t be successful unless you know what you are aiming at. God’s design for marriage gives us a specific purpose, goals and a direction to follow with our spouse.

Why should I do marriage God’s way?

1) God created Marriage.

Genesis 1 says that in the beginning God created. This is not just a story, this is history. If you do not believe that God created you, and created you with purpose; then that will affect your view of marriage. God created the concept of marriage. He designed it to be between 1 man and 1 woman in a lifetime commitment of choosing to love and serve each other. God designed Marriage as the primary social institution for this world. God is for marriage. He loves it, because He designed it. And if He created and designed it, then we need to seek His wisdom for how to handle our marriages correctly.

2) Marriage is a covenant.

Our God is a God of covenant. Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. Our culture is full of broken promises and failed contracts. A contract is a legal relationship in which two parties bind themselves together with certain terms and conditions, exit clauses and performance requirements. In other words, a contract says, you do this…I’ll do this…and if either one of us doesn’t keep our end of the bargain, then we will end the contract and go our separate ways.

A covenant is a promise in which two people bind themselves together to love each other unconditionally. In other words, you enter into an agreement and promise to fulfill certain conditions, but in a covenant, even if someone doesn’t completely fulfill what they agree to all the time, there is no out clause. God’s dealings with us throughout the history of this world show us that He is a God that deals in covenant and His unconditional faithfulness to us shows us how we should act toward our spouse. We have a covenant in Christ, and I am so glad we do. God is never going to bail on us, even when we don’t do it right some days (or everyday!). Jesus has radically saved us and has proven his love and faithfulness to us…and scripture tells us that He did this while we were yet sinners and opposed to God. Nothing can separate us from His love. He is always going to keep his promises to us. Thank you God that you deal with us through covenant and not as we deserve based on our actions.

Our marriage covenant with our spouse must mirror this unconditional, unshakeable covenant between Jesus Christ and the believer. Until it does…until we understand God’s purpose and plan for our marriage, we will never be successful the way God has defined success. But we can be unbelievably successful and fulfilled in marriage by choosing to view marriage as a covenant and choosing to love our spouse unconditionally.

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