Archive for October, 2007

October 31, 2007

Frustration, The internet, and Valuing People

Yesterday was a frustrating day. I was trying to work from home yesterday morning because my wife was sick. Suzanne is a stay at home mom…and works way harder than anyone else I know every day. But when she is out of commission, I do my best to step up and fill in for her so she can rest. So I took care of my kids and got them breakfast got them involved doing something constructive, and got ready to start working from home…and then, the worst thing that can happen, did happen…my internet went out!

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October 25, 2007

Integrity – part 1

I think that God longs for integrity and Character in His people.  It is part of the sanctification process He is taking every believer through.

One of my favorite passages in scripture deals with this process is…

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October 24, 2007

Practical ways a man can serve his wife – part 5

11) Take pride in your physical appearance

When I was in College, I played basketball and worked out every day. I could eat anything I wanted and I couldn’t gain a pound. Suzanne and I got married the week after we graduated from college, and after that things changed. I was not as active with basketball and working out as I had been, and my wife was a cooking machine. The first year we were married I gained 15 pounds, my energy level dropped, and the way I felt about myself was not good. I realized that after marriage this sense of “winning” the other person set in and I was not as committed to taking care of myself as I needed to be.

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October 22, 2007

Q&A – Manipulative boyfriend

Often we will get emails at NewSpring asking for advice about troubled relationships. Here is one we got a while back that adresses several issues we hear about from dating couples.

Q: I have a problem that I need some advice about. I grew up in a Christian home but only recently accepted Christ into my heart and began to make a personal relationship with Him.

I have a problem that has been bothering me for a while and is truly hindering my relationship with Christ. I have been dating a guy for a while now. I had always known I was going to wait to have sex for marriage and when I fell in love with him I was able to keep that goal, but then, after we had dated for a while, he broke up with me for another girl.

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October 18, 2007

Practical ways a man can serve his wife – part 4

9) Personal hygiene

Guys we stink! One of the ways we can show our wives that we love them and want to serve them is by recognizing the fact that we stink and doing something about it. Personal Hygiene is important to our wives. And…if you like having times that are intimate with your wife…she will be much more likely to participate in those if you don’t smell bad.

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October 17, 2007

Q&A – Strip Clubs


Q: When you talk about pornography being a sexual sin, does that include strip bars? Someone I care about says that when they go to a strip bar that they are just appreciating God’s beauty and have no intention of touching or sleeping with these women. This person is also happily married. He is not tempted with the internet porn or dirty mags, just the strip clubs.

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October 15, 2007

Practical ways a man can serve his wife – part 3

7) Be Perceptive

The definition of perceptive is – Responsive to sensory stimuli…Characterized by sympathetic understanding or insight.  This means we need to respond to her, to practice active listening, and that we seek to understand how she feels and what she needs.  This does not mean that we have to read her mind or always know exactly what she wants

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October 11, 2007

Q&A – A Hint of Sexual Immorality

I received this question from someone at another church several years ago about a practice that some of their youth were engaging in.

Q:       I need some scripture or insight into explaining why I am uncomfortable with our youth ‘rooming together’– acting as a married couple except no sexual relationship.  Sleeping together in the same bed.  Am I out of touch with reality.  I do remember the power of passion when I was young and still seem to think that this level of closeness might not be ‘as safe’ as the young folks think now.   The teens and young adults as well as some of my peers think I am so stupid and that these young adults are strong enough to hold the temptation back until they marry one day.  I am willing to get off my soapbox if you believe I am overeacting.  Thank you so much.

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October 10, 2007

Practical ways a man can serve his wife – part 2

I hope you enjoyed the first part of this list, here are some more things husbands can do to serve.

5) Listen to her – don’t interrupt her or try to fix it

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October 9, 2007

Q&A The Mark of the Beast

Q:  Can I get your opinion on something? My job here at ———— is getting hi-tech with clocking in/out of work. They are starting a new program where you have to use your finger print to clock in and out.  How do you feel about this? Is this me taking the “mark of the beast” or what?  I could use your opinion on this to make me feel better.

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