Q&A: How do I overcome my pornography addiction?

Q: I have an addiction to pornography and I know I need to take steps to stopping it. i was wondering if you could tell me how to stop the habit.  It would be great to know what someone else has done that has helped them overcome this issue.

A: Thanks for your email.  I would be more than happy to talk with you about this and answer any questions that you have.  The first thing I will tell you is that this is a sin that you can overcome.  God wants to set you free.  The fact that you have a desire to be free is evidence that God is at work in you and is wanting to do this work in your life.

We have to realize in overcoming this issue that the problem is not masturbation or porn, the problem is lust.  As men we have to take our thoughts captive and choose not to look lustfully at a woman.  Not an easy thing to do, but not impossible either.  We need God to change our perspective, and we need to ask Him to help us see sin the way He sees sin.  God also wants to teach us to die to our perceived “rights.”  As believers, we are united to Christ.  That means we are united to him in his death.  Dead men don’t have rights.  I don’t have a right to satisfy my sinful nature.  I only have the right to be obedient to what God calls me to do everyday.

God can set you free from this.  He wants you to be free.  That freedom starts by knowing the truth of scripture and applying it to your life and meditating on it so that when you are tempted to sin, you can run to God’s truth and take those thoughts captive.

A huge part of this is setting up proper boundaries and accountability for yourself.  To do this you have to identify the times and places you are weak and place healthy boundaries around yourself to avoid giving into those temptations

Some resources that I have found to help with setting up boundaries/accountability are:

– a book called: Every Man’s Battle

– A free online resource/article called Porn Again Christian

– The best computer software I have ever seen to help with a porn addiction is covenant eyes.  It does have a monthly fee, but it is a great accountability software.  There is also a free accountability software at www.xxxchurch.com that is excellent.

– I would also recommend that you get involved in a fantastic online ministry/biblestudy that is free called www.settingcaptivesfree.com

Many men that I have counseled have said that setting captives free helped them more than anything else.  I hope this helps.  Please let me know if I can help with anything else.

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